Thursday, January 13, 2011

Foster Care...

In 2005, we attended an international adoption information meeting in North Little Rock. There was one other family at the meeting. We didn't know this other family. I am so thankful that God used adoption to bring this family into my life. As we made small talk that night, I could never imagine what God had in store for our each of our families.

As it turns out, we both had bio kids born in the same month and we both felt called to adopt Asian babies. We spent the next couple years going through the entire adoption process together. We enjoyed getting our kids together often and spent hours upon hours talking about adoption. Our family welcomed home Sophie Le in the Spring of 2007 and their daughter Jenna came home from Korea that Fall. Our girls are about six weeks apart in age.

Fast forward a couple years...we both felt the call to foster care. Our homes "opened" within a few weeks of one another and at one point, we each fostered children from the same family.

As you know, we brought home Jonah from the hospital in November of 2009. My sweet friend brought home her beautiful foster baby home a couple weeks later in January.


For the last year, my friend has fed her baby, played with her baby, bathed her baby, rocked her baby to sleep and most importantly LOVED her baby with her whole heart. She has been baby A's mom. For a year.

Today is baby A's first birthday. Today my friend went to court to hand baby A over to the baby's birth father.

It is the much sought after, rarely attained, happy ending in foster care. Dad wants to raise his daughter. He has done everything (and more) that the court asked him to do. It is a beautiful love story between a father and his daughter. He cares. He loves. He has taken responsibility.

I am happy for baby A and her dad. However, my heart hurts for my friend today. I can only imagine how hard it was for her to hand her baby over today. I pray for strength and comfort for my friend.

I am proud of my friend. I am not sure I would be able to do it.


The Garners said...

Praying for everyone involved in that situation...goodness I cannot IMAGINE how hard that would be to let her go.

Julie said...

Wow, your friend gave her the gift of love when nobody else could. An amazing person. I don't know if I could do that either.

Julie said...

Oh---heart my heart! Praying for your friend...may God richly bless her and all you Foster Momma's out there. What an amazing sacrifice!

Julie said...

I meant to say..hurt my heart..oops

Unknown said...

I still miss my little girl that left us over a year ago and she was with us only 3 months! Praying for peace for this beautiful family.

So glad to find you. We are also foster parents.

Dianna said...

I will keep your friend in my thoughts - I can't imagine how hard it is for her! At the same time, I think it's wonderful that baby girl and her dad can be together. I truly admire anyone who opens their hearts through foster care.

Heather M. said...

See, she's truly just a wonderful person...and I don't even know her! But to be able to do just takes something I don't have. It must be extrememly hard. I will keep her & everyone involved in my prayers. I'm all for a happy ending!

Mom of 7 said...

My heart hurts for your friend so much! We had children leave our home, and I miss them so much, but none that had stayed that long. I think of my adopted boys, and I know after a year, it would have been gut-wrenching for them to leave. I am proud of A's dad for working so hard. It is nice to hear about the bio families with happy endings. Pryaing for healing, acceptance, and peace for your friend. She has formed that little girl into the person she will always be by giving her a great first year of life.