Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Adoption & Walking Video...

When you adopt a child that is a different race that yourself, you WILL get questions and comments...whether you want them or not :o) Really, I don't usually mind the comments/questions/observations...unless I am at the end of my grocery store journey and my three preschoolers are obviously barely hanging on by a thread and you think it is soooooo important to tell me ALL about your brother's sister in law's cousin that HAD to adopt because she had all sorts of problems and blah blah blah.

I know that most people have good intentions, but I have heard a lot of nutty comments over the last few years. Such as...

"Are you going to teach her English?"
"Why would you go to Ethiopia to get a black baby, we have lots of black babies here."
"I bet she is sisters with a little Chinese girl that lives in my neighborhood."
"Do they all have the same baby daddy or do you like all types?"
"You have to be pretty rich to adopt, huh?"
"Did you adopt from Ethiopia because Angelina Jolie did?"
"Are you going to tell her she is adopted?"
"I thought we were going to have to adopt, but luckily we got pregnant."
"I would never adopt a black baby because I couldn't fix her hair."

The thing that concerns me is that my kids are getting older and wiser everyday, but unfortunately the general public is not. I just pray that my kids won't be hurt by anything they hear (I am sure ALL parents feel this way).

The one comment that always gets me is, "That baby sure is lucky." And I KNOW (really, I know) that people say that with good, nice intentions, but I also KNOW the reason each of my adopted/foster kids entered our family and I can most assuredly tell you that I wouldn't consider those circumstances "lucky." I think the more appropriate comment would be, "you sure are a lucky mama." Haha!

This subject came to mind today because a couple friends posted this video on facebook today...

I have probably watched it five times today...cracks me up everytime! I love the question about her daughter's tribe. I don't recall the name of Julianne's tribe, but I may just have to start using the "noneyabusiness tribe." Hahahaha!

I also LOVE the response to the question about telling your child she is adopted... "I'm sure she will figure this one out." Ha!

I am making a promise to myself to get my good camera out more. I have become so dependent on my camera phone and my point and shoot camera lately.

Here are some typical scenes around our house: Hillary Ashton enjoying an after school snack...yep, cheese puffs...I am a good mama...ha!

My sweet girl, who is never more than a couple feet from mama :o)

A favorite game around our house...ring around the rosy...I wish I could bottle up their giggles and belly laughs. Pure sweetness!

My sweet boy is walking more and more each day. Crawling is definitely his preferred mode of transportation if he needs to get somewhere quickly :o) I tried to capture his walking on video after supper tonight, but he was more interested in playing than walking :o)


Lisa said...

That's hysterical! I love that video! Also love the one of your little walker! Is that him laughing ater he plops down?

Heather M. said...

AHHHHH HAHAHAHAHA!!! Wish I was so witty at times!!! Maybe I can steal a littl of the cartoon mom's sarcasm. Love your little walker!

Jennifer said...

Laughed my head off at that video! Hysterical! The things people say are so ridiculous!!

Mandy said...

LMBO!!!!! OMGosh that video is HILARIOUS!!

"It must have been God and stress that screwed me over.."


Jess @ The Bex Files said...

"Do they all have the same baby daddy or do you like all types?"

Bwaaaaaa haaaaa haa!

Mom of 7 said...

I love the walking video!! So cute!! Wow at the things people say to you. People really just don't think before they open their mouth. I have had a lot of people as me if I will tell Zachariah he is adopted, and I always say the same thing, "I think he will figure it out".

Renee said...

BLAAAAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is SO RIGHT ON THE MONEY as an adoptive parent!!!!!! I'm going to try to put that on my facebook. That's awesome!