Saturday, January 28, 2012

16 Orphans...Day 28


If you are familiar with Vietnam adoption, you probably know the story of the Bac Lieu 16. If not, there were 16 families that traveled to the Bac Lieu province back in 2008 to adopt 16 orphans. Long story short, there were complications and the parents were not granted permission to bring the children back to America. The families have fought for years to bring their children home. They have written letters, met with representatives, begged and pleaded to anyone who would listen. They have made many trips to Vietnam to see their children. They have done everything in their power to move along the process. Luckily, after years...literally years...of heartache and pain, 13 of these children finally made it home to their forever families. Here is one of the "happier" stories . Just last week, I read that the 3 remaining orphans...all girls...were adopted out domestically in Vietnam...without consent or knowledge of the American families that adopted them 3 1/2 years ago. My heart aches for these three families. Aches. These families did nothing different than we did when we adopted Little Pumpkin. When they received the referral picture of their child, I am sure they fell in love instantly, like we did. When they met their child for the first time, I am sure they felt like they finally found the part of their heart that was missing before. We were lucky, we got to bring our child home within weeks of meeting her. They didn't. We have had the blessing of watching Little Pumpkin grow, mature and blossom over the years. They haven't. People often tell us how "lucky" Little Pumpkin is that she was adopted. Honestly, I KNOW their comment is sincere and comes from a good place. Really, I do. I know in my mind what they mean, but in my heart, I feel, "are you crazy? she's lucky? she lost her birthfamily and birthcountry. she spent the first six months of her life in an orphanage in a third world country. in those important first months of life, when most babies are being doted over and protected with intensity, my baby was laying in a wooden crib with humidity in the air and no air conditioner. she had flies swarming all over her face and body, she never had enough milk to satisfy her. it breaks this mommy's heart every.single.time I think about it. she will have to "deal" with being "different" her entire life. lucky? i don't think so," but the words, "No, we are the lucky ones" is always my response. "We are the lucky ones" never seems truer than they have in the last week. We are indeed very, very lucky that we were able to adopt her and bring her home.

January 28
{January 28th's picture}

I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you

sophiele2012 b

Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like Northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

1 comment:

Julie said...

It is such a sad story. There are actually only 11 kids that were able to come home. There are still two boys that are stuck in limbo. We know one of the families that are still waiting to bring home their son. They have been over to Vietnam three times to visit their son.